Communication Playbooks

Scripts for tough conversations

Communication Scripts

These scripts are starting points for difficult conversations, calibrated to different attachment dynamics.

When You Need to Set a Boundary

"I care about us, and I need to share something that's been on my mind. When [specific behavior], I feel [emotion]. I'd like us to [proposed solution]. What do you think?"

When They're Shutting Down

"I can see this is overwhelming. I don't need to resolve this right now. I just want you to know I'm here when you're ready. No pressure."

When You're Feeling Anxious

"I'm noticing I'm feeling anxious about us. I know that's partly my own stuff. Can we check in? Even a quick 'we're good' would help me a lot."

Repair After a Fight

"I don't think either of us handled that well. I said some things I regret. Can we try again? I want to understand your side."