Personality Patterns

What the AI reads in you

These are the behavioral patterns ChatMend's AI looks for in your conversations.

Reassurance Seeking

Frequent requests for validation, love confirmation, or "are we ok" signals. Indicates anxiety around relationship stability.

Protest Behaviors

Statements like "Fine", "Whatever", or "I guess I'll just go" — designed to provoke a response. A classic anxious-attachment signal.

Stonewalling

Going completely silent or refusing to engage when emotional pressure rises. The most damaging predictor of relationship breakdown (Gottman research).

Minimization

Dismissing a partner's feelings: "You're overreacting", "It's not a big deal." Signals emotional avoidance and invalidation.

Deflection

Changing the subject, claiming to be too busy, or delaying emotional conversations indefinitely. Avoids conflict but prevents resolution.

Escalation

Rapid emotional intensification where small triggers lead to large global statements. Indicates poor emotional regulation.

Repair Attempts

Efforts to de-escalate conflict: humor, apologies, a gentle touch. A key predictor of long-term relationship health (Gottman, 1994).