Personality Patterns
What the AI reads in you
These are the behavioral patterns ChatMend's AI looks for in your conversations.
Reassurance Seeking
Frequent requests for validation, love confirmation, or "are we ok" signals. Indicates anxiety around relationship stability — the partner's silence feels threatening even when it isn't.
Protest Behaviors
Statements like "Fine", "Whatever", or "I guess I'll just go" — designed to provoke a response rather than genuinely end the conversation. A classic anxious-attachment signal.
Stonewalling
Going completely silent, refusing to engage, or abruptly ending conversations when emotional pressure rises. The most damaging predictor of relationship breakdown (Gottman research).
Minimization
Dismissing a partner's feelings: "You're overreacting", "It's not a big deal", "You're too sensitive." Signals emotional avoidance and invalidation.
Deflection
Changing the subject, claiming to be too busy, or delaying emotional conversations indefinitely. Avoids conflict but prevents resolution.
Escalation
Rapid emotional intensification where small triggers lead to large global statements ("We're done", "You always do this"). Indicates poor emotional regulation.
Repair Attempts
Efforts to de-escalate conflict: humor, apologies, a gentle touch, or a subject shift. A key predictor of long-term relationship health (Gottman, 1994).